I have been receiving comments (see comments from my last post) to the effect that I may have scammed people into giving me money. These allegations are totally NOT TRUE. These comments were made by anonymous posters...not the most forthcoming people to begin with.
I know that I have not posted an update saying that I have received the needed document from FIL...I have been avoiding that, because I just HATE writing that we STILL do not have it.
You cannot understand the situation that I am in here...this man has no idea of the timeline that we are up against...he does not care to know...he will not allow us to explain things to him...cuts us off when we try...hangs up the phone...will not meet with us in person to sit down and discuss this process. This adoption is NOT a priority for him, therefore, the paperwork will be done and given to us in HIS time, not mine. There is nothing I can do to make him move any faster, and any harassment by me will only cause him to make us wait longer. I have known this man for thirty years...this is his way of controlling the situation, and he will do it for as long as he feels like it.
To my anonymous posters...sign your name to your posts so that I may contact you regarding the slander that you have posted on my blog. Do you have the guts? This situation is stressful enough without people like you over there in anonymous land making it worse.
To all of the wonderful people who support us...THANK YOU!
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I really dislike this guy. I know that's kind of mean, but I am just over adults acting like CHILDREN. That goes for anonymous posters too. Really? If you don't like that Tami needs money.. don't donate. But I donated $30. Money I probably would have spent on something much LESS important than getting this sweet boy home. and if he doesn't get to go home to Tami and Ralph I will be really sad. But I won't regret giving them the money because it was the right thing to do.
ReplyDeleteand in 5 years from now I won't miss that $30. I won't. that's pocket change. But if that $30 made a difference and in 5 years from now Tanner is celebrating his birthday, christmas, 4th of July with Tami and Ralph then that $30 will have been money well spent.
It's my pleasure. HUGS honey.
ReplyDeleteTami,
ReplyDeleteI am praying for FIL's change of heart, that he will get over himself and do the right thing. ((((HUGS)))
I'm sorry you have to deal with those kinds of cowardice Tammy.
ReplyDeleteOh Tami, please don't read those hurtful comments or give them any space in your heart. Just keep doing what you know you need to do to get your boy home! I'm so sorry your FIL is STILL making things difficult; one day he'll have to answer for that. I'll pray you get your document soon! You're so brave!
ReplyDeleteps - you ARE brave! You have the courage to keep hoping every day and keep working toward a seemingly impossible goal! Can't wait to see pics of your gotcha day!!
ReplyDeleteTami, I'm sorry your FIL is so unreasonable. Will keep waiting and hoping and praying.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry that your FIL has such a cold heart :-(
ReplyDeletewell I know Tami Gave $20 to our chip in button for Zhenya so can vouch that she is a real person, though I dont know you Tami.
ReplyDeletethough I must say it is an odd situation, and people will be worried about that gorgeous little boy as I’m sure Tami is also. I'm sure RR would post something if they thought she was scamming people.
So Tami he knows you have the money? Does he not want it now? Do you have money to travel with what are your plans from here on?
I wonder if you brought the paper you need signed, a traveling notary, and the check for $1000 right to his door... if he would do it? I also wonder if there is anything else other than cash that might open him up a bit, a third party he likes and trusts who might be able to reason with him?
ReplyDeleteAnd this is drastic, but have you considered moving? And if you are able to do that maybe you could tell him you will if he won't cough up the doc you need.
Will pray for your situation.
@ TUC...HE has the paper we need, so bringing it to him does not work...and moving...well, that is just not possible. Believe me, that was my first thought!
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for the suggestions, tho!
Today is father's day...when hubby calls him, he has been instructed (by me) to ask when and where TOMORROW we can meet to pick up the paperwork. We'll see what he says then...
So sorry people are giving you a hard time. I am sure you are stressed enough without having to worry that people are calling you a scammer. People you care about you know you are not. Don't waste a minute of your day thinking about them. Anyone who can help you, I'm sure would.
ReplyDeleteI know you had a contract, so I hope he follows through soon. So sad he is making this SO hard for you.
Tami, I saw the post you had up yesterday. I hope things will work out for you to adopt Tanner. I know it probably won't help much but a social worker conducting classes for our adoption once commented that it was their job to find families for children who need them not children for parents who want them. I'm sure the RR folks are just trying to do their best for Tanner too. I do hope that your FIL will stop being so difficult so that the family that Tanner goes home to is yours.
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